So this is what I promise you. I won’t talk about Prop 8 forever, but right now Prop 8 is just about all that’s on my mind. The truth is, I’m surprised by how much it’s weighing on me as a lesbian, as a Christian, as a Californian, and as a woman who’s madly in [...]

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On this, Write to Marry Day, I asked Rev. Steve Harms, the pastor of Peace Lutheran Church, the congregation in spiritual partnership with SisterFriends Together, to offer some thoughts on marriage equality. Following Steve’s comments are several videos from other clergy speaking in opposition to Prop 8. They are all worth a listen.
The “Yes on [...]

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Next Tuesday is Election Day. In California the political ads on the radio and TV are less about the Presidential candidates than on several major state-wide measures. The one that has the full attention at our household is Proposition 8, which if passed, will eliminate the right of gay and lesbian couples to marry by [...]

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Wednesday
D and I were both working at home in the afternoon and decided to take a coffee break and drive up to Starbucks for a caffeine fix. I swear I’d take it direct in the veins if they offered it that way. “Would you like that espresso in a cup or IV drip?”  I was, [...]

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On Saturday evening our friends Heather and Denise were married…again. D and I are ahead of them by one with a wedding count of 3 to 2 but who’s counting? I mean it’s not as if it’s a competition though if it were, we would obviously be the winners!
Anyway, though the girls did not request, [...]

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Dear Advocate for Yes on Proposition 8,
I found the handbill you left on our front door Saturday morning with the handwritten note, “Sorry I missed you.” I’m sorry I missed you too. No really. I am. I would have liked the opportunity to meet you and made a little neighborly chit chat before inviting you [...]

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The realization I was a lesbian had barely cleared my cerebral cortex before I was promising to God I’d never do anything with another woman all the days of my life. Anything included, but was not limited to touching, kissing, snuggling, folding, spindling, and kadoodling. Even after reconciling my faith and sexuality I still had [...]

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Oops! Sorry for not posting last night as I intended but both my computers were stuck for hours uploading the latest upgrade to the Mac operating system while my iPod Touch was grinding away with it’s own massively time-consuming upgrade. By the time I’d rebooted half a dozen times and sorted my way through the [...]

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Yesterday was our third in a series of weddings, and while the photo to the left is from our first back in 2002, I was just as happy and D was just as beautiful yesterday as six years ago so the old snapshot will have to do until we sort through the photos from yesterday.
It [...]

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Tomorrow D and I are heading over to San Francisco for our appointment at City Hall to hand over our cash and a completed application form in exchange for one state-recognized marriage license.
As an ordained member of the clergy I’ve officiated at several marriages over the past few years and one of the main behind [...]

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