Indulge me this post to back up and do some fundamental re-framing of my recent post on Lesbian Relationships: Preparing for Love where I encouraged caring for our spiritual, relational, and emotional growth; taking time to heal the broken places in our lives; deepening our self-awareness; and fully participating in life now rather than waiting [...]

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We now break away for a public service announcement… It would seem to go without saying but I’m going to say it anyway. As I move into this three part mini-series on lesbian relationships I’m not going to regurgitate what I’ve read in books or share what I’ve learned from observing the relationships of other [...]

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Some won’t agree with what I write here. Of course I realize I run that risk every time I open my mouth or start tapping my fingers on the keyboard so I’m prepared for that, however much it pains me to not have full consensus in every thought and word that proceeds forth from my [...]

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My parents met in the church marching band. For my younger readership, this was the 1930-40′s version of a praise and worship band but while the praise and worship musicians are usually stationed to one side of the front of the sanctuary, the marching band marched. Generally outside, at parades and other social gatherings where  [...]

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Based on several of the comments to my previous posts, I want to clear up my intention on the previous and upcoming posts on relationships. Here’s what I’m not doing. I’m not telling you there’s a right way and a wrong way to any of this, at least in the areas I’m currently addressing. Trust [...]

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I no sooner hit the WordPress publish button on my last post than I realized I forgot to include an additional concern in entering into a relationship before reconciling your faith and sexuality that I learned in the trenches. First, let me go on record as saying that the reconciliation process doesn’t happen overnight anymore [...]

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With Valentine’s Day still lingering in the air I thought I might venture into the Land of Lesbian Relationships this week, a topic I’ve resisted for some time because in talking about relationships I don’t want to give the impression to anyone that I consider myself an expert on relationships. That’s so not the case. [...]

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On Friday night’s airing of Dateline NBC Ann Curry interviewed Rev. Rick Warren and I’m more troubled today about all this than I was when I wrote my previous post. It seems the more Warren says these days, the more troubled I become and even if I have nothing new to add to the conversation [...]

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It’s true. Today is not a good day and I’m giving myself 24 hours to be hurt, disappointed, and angry. I get a day to cry and pout and rage against injustice, and then tomorrow I’ll be fine. And more importantly we will be fine. You. Me. Us. So as you already know, here’s how [...]

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