Comments on: My Bad Lesbian http://www.sisterfriends-together.org/my-bad-lesbian/ An online community sharing our lives and faith within a place of grace Thu, 22 Dec 2011 05:29:07 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: amy http://www.sisterfriends-together.org/my-bad-lesbian/comment-page-1/#comment-21027 amy Sun, 18 Jul 2010 20:11:43 +0000 http://www.sisterfriends-together.org/?p=5020#comment-21027 mmmm...love this. mmmm…love this.

]]> By: shar http://www.sisterfriends-together.org/my-bad-lesbian/comment-page-1/#comment-20753 shar Wed, 07 Jul 2010 15:16:50 +0000 http://www.sisterfriends-together.org/?p=5020#comment-20753 When I was straight (or at least spent a lot of time convincing myself I was) - I used the Pride Parades as one of my forms of attack on the 'lifestyle'. It was exactly because of the promiscuity. I guess I neve saw a hetero 'Pride' day and didn't understand why it had to be. Of course it didn't occur to me that one was accepted and everyone else wasn't. So much had to be learned - and no doubt, so much more. When I was straight (or at least spent a lot of time convincing myself I was) – I used the Pride Parades as one of my forms of attack on the ‘lifestyle’. It was exactly because of the promiscuity. I guess I neve saw a hetero ‘Pride’ day and didn’t understand why it had to be. Of course it didn’t occur to me that one was accepted and everyone else wasn’t. So much had to be learned – and no doubt, so much more.

]]> By: Susan http://www.sisterfriends-together.org/my-bad-lesbian/comment-page-1/#comment-20670 Susan Sun, 04 Jul 2010 12:34:44 +0000 http://www.sisterfriends-together.org/?p=5020#comment-20670 You're not a bad lesbian, Anita. Much of what you said here is stuff I can relate to (and isn't great how PFLAG moms and dads can make us melt into silly putty?!) I delighted in seeing the photos of the Episcopal Diocese of CA participating in the SF Pride parade, holding a eucharist, and putting a different incarnation of Christian in front of the party-going horde with their Absolut and safer-sex care packages. Today, that's what <b>I</b> think is important to see in the pride parades because it's time to end the stereotype within the LGBT community about Christians. You’re not a bad lesbian, Anita. Much of what you said here is stuff I can relate to (and isn’t great how PFLAG moms and dads can make us melt into silly putty?!) I delighted in seeing the photos of the Episcopal Diocese of CA participating in the SF Pride parade, holding a eucharist, and putting a different incarnation of Christian in front of the party-going horde with their Absolut and safer-sex care packages. Today, that’s what I think is important to see in the pride parades because it’s time to end the stereotype within the LGBT community about Christians.

]]> By: Dani http://www.sisterfriends-together.org/my-bad-lesbian/comment-page-1/#comment-20575 Dani Thu, 01 Jul 2010 02:22:17 +0000 http://www.sisterfriends-together.org/?p=5020#comment-20575 Tee-hee! I work at a store that is on the parade route in one city. I am a lesbian trans-woman and everyone thought for sure I'd be there for the parade and go to the festival. Nah, I don't think so. I was supposed to go to the festival, but my rude friends who said they were going to invite me didn't. And I HATE outdoor crowds of that many people. I can handle indoors, but just barely. And I only like parades if I am in them and playing a musical instrument (yes I was in marching band, for 7 years!). I just love being a woman and going shopping comfortably, which I did on Sunday. That is MY Pride celebration. Yay for all the people who did go to the festival and parade. And or course the company I work for which made a crap-ton of money off of cigarette sales and everything else people will buy while watching a parade. (Cynical me!) Tee-hee! I work at a store that is on the parade route in one city. I am a lesbian trans-woman and everyone thought for sure I’d be there for the parade and go to the festival. Nah, I don’t think so. I was supposed to go to the festival, but my rude friends who said they were going to invite me didn’t. And I HATE outdoor crowds of that many people. I can handle indoors, but just barely. And I only like parades if I am in them and playing a musical instrument (yes I was in marching band, for 7 years!).
I just love being a woman and going shopping comfortably, which I did on Sunday. That is MY Pride celebration.
Yay for all the people who did go to the festival and parade. And or course the company I work for which made a crap-ton of money off of cigarette sales and everything else people will buy while watching a parade. (Cynical me!)

]]> By: Laura H. http://www.sisterfriends-together.org/my-bad-lesbian/comment-page-1/#comment-20564 Laura H. Wed, 30 Jun 2010 19:47:11 +0000 http://www.sisterfriends-together.org/?p=5020#comment-20564 For me, the nice thing about Pride (both the parade and the booths and events) is that there really is something for everyone. Yes, there's the overtly sexual, Speedo-wearing boys dancing on the floats - usually with very fun music, though! - but there is also the groups of gay-supportive churches & synagogues, affirmative support groups, gay parents groups and PFLAG, just to name a few. Here in Atlanta, we also have the Digging Dykes of Decatur (a lesbian garden club), and Charis Books (the oldest feminist bookstore in the Southeast), just to name a couple of the many groups and businesses who march. Truly, I think most of our community is represented, and to feel the solidarity, support and validation of being with so many sisters and brothers (whether they are more or less like us individually) is so very worth attending Pride. For me, the nice thing about Pride (both the parade and the booths and events) is that there really is something for everyone. Yes, there’s the overtly sexual, Speedo-wearing boys dancing on the floats – usually with very fun music, though! – but there is also the groups of gay-supportive churches & synagogues, affirmative support groups, gay parents groups and PFLAG, just to name a few. Here in Atlanta, we also have the Digging Dykes of Decatur (a lesbian garden club), and Charis Books (the oldest feminist bookstore in the Southeast), just to name a couple of the many groups and businesses who march. Truly, I think most of our community is represented, and to feel the solidarity, support and validation of being with so many sisters and brothers (whether they are more or less like us individually) is so very worth attending Pride.

]]> By: Andrew http://www.sisterfriends-together.org/my-bad-lesbian/comment-page-1/#comment-20539 Andrew Wed, 30 Jun 2010 05:17:04 +0000 http://www.sisterfriends-together.org/?p=5020#comment-20539 I don't know how comfortable I'd be at one of those events, but at the same time I feel that I need to go to one in my lifetime. I'm 20, so there's plenty of time. I don’t know how comfortable I’d be at one of those events, but at the same time I feel that I need to go to one in my lifetime. I’m 20, so there’s plenty of time.

]]> By: TDK http://www.sisterfriends-together.org/my-bad-lesbian/comment-page-1/#comment-20536 TDK Wed, 30 Jun 2010 04:03:49 +0000 http://www.sisterfriends-together.org/?p=5020#comment-20536 Had to laugh when I read this. When I came out last year, my mom told me that it was okay as long as I never 1. Held a woman's hand 2. Kissed a woman and 3. Went to a PRIDE event. 1 and 2 are done, I really wanted to check off #3 but alas, believe it or not, our parade is scheduled at the same time as my child's 4H meeting. See, us flaming homosexuals are just normal mom leading 4H. LOL. Oh well, maybe next year....after reading this I had better get there before I get much older and lose interest. And Kristin....coming out is worth the losses, living honestly with yourself and others, is worth it. And you will find that there are gains, way too numerous to count. It's been a wild year for me, but I am so glad that I came out. Had to laugh when I read this. When I came out last year, my mom told me that it was okay as long as I never 1. Held a woman’s hand 2. Kissed a woman and 3. Went to a PRIDE event.

1 and 2 are done, I really wanted to check off #3 but alas, believe it or not, our parade is scheduled at the same time as my child’s 4H meeting. See, us flaming homosexuals are just normal mom leading 4H. LOL. Oh well, maybe next year….after reading this I had better get there before I get much older and lose interest.

And Kristin….coming out is worth the losses, living honestly with yourself and others, is worth it. And you will find that there are gains, way too numerous to count. It’s been a wild year for me, but I am so glad that I came out.

]]> By: Kristin http://www.sisterfriends-together.org/my-bad-lesbian/comment-page-1/#comment-20496 Kristin Tue, 29 Jun 2010 01:54:31 +0000 http://www.sisterfriends-together.org/?p=5020#comment-20496 Anita: Thanks for your post. I'm in the process of coming out -- first to myself, I guess. My counselor suggested I go to the Pride event here and then meet with her after. It wasn't my scene. It wasn't because it was an LGBT event...there were crowds, drinking, etc. Shoot, my inner (fundamentalist) child isn't comfortable at the State Fair! It was a good thing to do even if I didn't think, "Alas, I've found my home!" I'd go again...maybe even to the fair! Today I met with my spiritual director (different from counselor). I told her how afraid I am of this journey. I have supportive friends (even the couple who don't believe the bible allows for same sex partnerships are kind and gracious). Family? Work/church? I don't know. No, I do know, and there would be losses...some at least. My spiritual helped me see God is with me through all of this. Your posts help me see God to...how God has gone ahead for you and D...how God goes ahead for me. Thanks for reminders to live authentically, to be who I am, where I am on this journey. Anita:

Thanks for your post. I’m in the process of coming out — first to myself, I guess. My counselor suggested I go to the Pride event here and then meet with her after. It wasn’t my scene. It wasn’t because it was an LGBT event…there were crowds, drinking, etc. Shoot, my inner (fundamentalist) child isn’t comfortable at the State Fair! It was a good thing to do even if I didn’t think, “Alas, I’ve found my home!” I’d go again…maybe even to the fair!

Today I met with my spiritual director (different from counselor). I told her how afraid I am of this journey. I have supportive friends (even the couple who don’t believe the bible allows for same sex partnerships are kind and gracious). Family? Work/church? I don’t know. No, I do know, and there would be losses…some at least. My spiritual helped me see God is with me through all of this.

Your posts help me see God to…how God has gone ahead for you and D…how God goes ahead for me. Thanks for reminders to live authentically, to be who I am, where I am on this journey.

]]> By: B http://www.sisterfriends-together.org/my-bad-lesbian/comment-page-1/#comment-20494 B Tue, 29 Jun 2010 00:54:20 +0000 http://www.sisterfriends-together.org/?p=5020#comment-20494 I wrote about this very thing this week about the Pride Parade in Houston on my blog! So glad someone else feels the same way! I wrote about this very thing this week about the Pride Parade in Houston on my blog! So glad someone else feels the same way!

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