Comments on: Perhaps It Was For the Best For the Both of Us

By: Christy

Christy — Mon, 01 Sep 2008 22:06:05 +0000

Anita, thanks once again for giving voice to the frustrations we all share concerning this subject. It just seems to me so dishonest of them to pretend we are a threat to anyone because we choose to love someone of the same gender. I am sure if given the opportunity to meet a person handing out one of these handbills I would feel rage while trying to have some sort of meaningful dialogue with them, but I would also be pretty blunt in demanding an answer and wanting to know in just what specific way are me and my partner a threat to them and society. For me that is the burning question where the rubber meets the road and if they cannot offer a single valid point then their hypocrisy exposes their narrow-minded hatred of people who are decent and have harmed no one.

By: anita

anita — Sun, 31 Aug 2008 06:44:43 +0000

Amy–> You’re a sweetheart. Always have been. And I should know, eh?

Bon–> Thank you Brainiac (and I mean that only in the most respectful and awed sort of way) but the piece is just too rough for me to consider submitting anywhere. Besides, it really was intended for the posse here, among friends.

By: Bon

Bon — Sun, 31 Aug 2008 03:42:44 +0000

Amen on book writing. And forget the letter to the editor. Why not see if the paper will use it as a guest editorial article?

By: Amy

Amy — Sat, 30 Aug 2008 23:40:27 +0000

Write a book already, would you! This piece of lovely made me think one thing over and over quite a bit. The conversation that never really happened now really has. And it makes a difference.

By: joni

joni — Thu, 28 Aug 2008 19:02:04 +0000

I really hope they follow up and come back!!!!!

And yes a great letter for the newspaper indeed.

By: anita

anita — Wed, 27 Aug 2008 21:28:02 +0000

Kelly–> I haven’t considered sending this on to a local paper’s “Letters to the Editors” for one reason and one reason only. Nearly all submissions are limited to 250 words…maximum. This is ME we’re talking about….250 words is how I say “Good Morning!”

By: wvhillcountry

wvhillcountry — Wed, 27 Aug 2008 19:32:39 +0000

Anita, I would second Eliz’s vote for you to send this to your editor. Anon if you want. But you put a very human face on the issue. And you do it so well. I have to admit I got a chuckle out of D looking at you while you were reading your post. You pulled it out in the end. Thanks again for this site and your posts.

By: anita

anita — Wed, 27 Aug 2008 18:51:10 +0000

Gang–>Wow, look at all these responses to my little tirade! It was quite funny actually because before posting it I was reading it to D and was half way through it when I saw her looking at me with a bit of a disbelieving smirk. I immediately knew what she was thinking since she’d been there when I initially found the handbill and was sputtering and mumbling under my breath. “Don’t worry Hon, I ‘fess up in my first reaction in the last paragraph” I reassured her…minus the swear words of course. Anyway, thank you to everyone, first for reading my blog (and this entry) in the first place, and then for taking the time to comment. It’s really encouraging.

Esther–>You don’t have to come out to make a difference. Just live confidently in the knowledge of God’s love for you, love Steph with all your heart, and continue to create an incredible life with her. For those family and friends who know about the two of you, you’ll only inspire them further through the example of your life to understand and represent well the reality of our lives and loves among their greater circles of relationships. Living our lives well is far more powerful than any words we say to a political stumper who slips us a handbill. But you know all that….

Kellie–> LOL….never question my ability to be very human, and a hot-headed human at that. I know how I want to live and respond….it just takes me a little time and venting to get there. I’m trying to work on cutting down the temper time.

Megan–> I’m so glad you and your beloved have a circle of people who honor your relationship and your upcoming marriage. I agree….”I do” are powerful and glorious words. I know because “I did.” Congratulations!!! And Maryland will legalize it one day too…we won’t be done until it’s all 50 states…. and then, it’s going federal level!

DragonLady–> Sigh…Colorado….well, we know why it will be some time before the Centennial State will join the wedding party instead of focusing on everyone else’s family. Bad pun. I bad. Anyway, I hope spamming the message boards lifted your spirits. That’s what they’re there for

By: DragonLady

DragonLady — Wed, 27 Aug 2008 02:49:55 +0000

*cries* It is no near becoming a reality in Colorado and I do so want a marriage license to hang on my wall. I remember that some few years ago several of my friends went to another state to get married but upon returning home, they were told that their license wasn’t recognized here. They were crushed but remain together still. It seems like the test of time ought to count for something too.

Well I guess that I will go spam up your forums to put myself in a better mood before bedtime.

By: Megan

Megan — Tue, 26 Aug 2008 20:49:36 +0000

Anita- THANK YOU so much for this post! My girlfriend of 8 months and I recently got engaged and want have a commitment ceremony (we live in the great state of Maryland where gay marriage is not legal). My family is fighting this tooth and nail, saying that it is not really an engagement and we should not call it “getting married” because it is not legal. To my fiance, myself, her family, and all of our friends, it is a marriage just like any other. When we say “I do” it is for forever and we do not take it lightly. We often joke about moving to Canada in a few years, but I think that there is some truth to that. We probably will, just to be treated as married people are here in the states. Or maybe by then, Maryland will have legalized it.