Suggestions for Direction
March 9, 2009
Tomorrow afternoon and Wednesday I’ll be blogging my two final posts in the series on Dyke Dating and Lesbian Relationships, and so my question is where do we go from here? Along with my usual meanderings I’d like to focus the blog topics on areas that are of concern or interest to you and so I’m asking for you folks to step forward with some suggestions in the comments section below of where we might venture next in the world of GLBTQ Christians and their ragtag band of friends and allies.
What say ye?
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March 9th, 2009 at 8:37 pm
Forgiving others. I know it sounds obvious and easy to understand, but there’s stuff that’s hard to deal with. Like how do you forgive someone for doing something to hurt you when they’re still actively doing it — like just to pick an example that is in no way pulled from my life: when your family continually treats you like crap for being GLBTQ.
March 9th, 2009 at 8:58 pm
Tiffany–>Forgiveness. Absolutely. Thank you for not only suggesting it but for suggesting it in context to a situation in your own life that so many others can relate to personally. We’ll definitely go into that conversation together.
March 10th, 2009 at 9:19 pm
“… and their ragtag band of friends and allies.”
Hey there – who you callin’ “ragtag”? It seems to me that one R.F. Capon has talked about the mink stole of righteousness and the Rolls Royce of salvation, no?!
(In The Parables of Grace, IIRC.)
March 10th, 2009 at 9:35 pm
e2tc–>You know exactly who I’m calling ragtag and don’t be quoting any of those outlandish grace-centric theologians at me Missy!
March 11th, 2009 at 4:03 am
I would like to hear your opinion on how as christians, we should approach anti-gay rhetoric vs. the people that spout it off.
March 11th, 2009 at 7:53 am
‘anti-gay rhetoric’ I get a lot of that lately. Also, forgiveness and all the other christian ethics would be good to talk about. Being authentically christian in a post modern world, where not only are we making a shift in reconciling our orientation and faith, but that nice, neat ‘christian box’ is changing too.
deb
For myself, identity is the biggest issue I have. For many reasons. I find it harder and harder to be in the closet for some people who need that of me, like the old lady I go help with her aged husband. She has taken me as a daughter and I love that, but I realize with her and a few others I have sliced myself into little pieces that fit the moment. I’m uncomfortable in my own skin most of the time.
I ‘came out’ at church because they were having a conversation and vote on whether same sex couples could marry in our church. Standing up in front of the church and giving my two cents us helpful in the moment, but now I have to ware that every time I go to church. Although some groups like to think they are ‘liberal’ and open to gay issues, they still treat you different once they know. I had one will meaning women offer to take me to a second hand store so I can get some clothes. I literally had to ask her to my home for coffee and when she started telling me about the phone calls she had made and the volunteers who will pay for some ‘outfits’ for me, I had to take her in my room and show her my wardrobe that is full of office work clothes, girlie casual ware, etc. and finally tell her I dress the way I do on purpose. I think it still didn’t dawn on her that what she was trying to help me with was to look less ‘gay’. crimmenie!!
Gee… sigh…. there is my ideas and my whinge for the day.
March 11th, 2009 at 2:41 pm
Jen–> Thanks so much for that suggestion. We’ll definitely go there together.
Deb–> Wow. There are about a dozen directions we can go from what you wrote. Forgiveness, responding to anti-gay rhetoric and conservative christians, christian ethics, emerging faith, self-identity, the conflict of being in with some and out with others, and of course, lesbian fashion
March 11th, 2009 at 7:06 pm
hahahahahaha… gosh… you do crack me up! yes… I have never been much for any kind of fashion. color blind for sure. my favorite is purple and orange together, but my daughters have trashed my favs. I’m boring but comfortable.
Thanks for hearing what I was saying. It helps.
March 12th, 2009 at 8:15 am
e2tc–>You know exactly who I’m calling ragtag and don’t be quoting any of those outlandish grace-centric theologians at me Missy!
LOLZ!!!
Or maybe touché, eh?! 
March 12th, 2009 at 8:56 am
OK, for my next post…
Something serious. Maybe something for the ragtag band of friends, as in gracious but honest ways straight/whoever supporters can be of help to you? (Both personally and in talking with others who are inclined to act and speak out of fear and lack of understanding?)
March 30th, 2009 at 10:44 pm
I would appreciate your thoughts on forgiveness. Forgiveness of others and forgiveness of myself. On paper sometimes forgiveness seems simple and straight forward, but the practical application of forgiveness seems a little beyond my reach. Though I am trying the way to forgive that was part of the book “The Shack” [which I loved loved loved!]