Comments on: Thanksgiving: The UnRockwell Version

By: feelingchilly

feelingchilly — Sun, 13 Dec 2009 19:23:30 +0000

My girlfriend and I were talking today about making new traditions. It hurts me that we won’t be together this Christmas. I’ll be at ‘home’ with my ‘supportive’ mother and the rest of the family that she says I’m not allowed to tell that I’m gay. Thanks for sharing your beautiful traditions with the blogosphere

By: HeadacheSlayer

HeadacheSlayer — Sun, 13 Dec 2009 12:12:08 +0000

This made me cry pretty hard. My family have never fully accepted me and that when I was a straight A honors student, married to a great guy, have 2 amazing kids. Between my weight and my chronic illnesses, I am never good enough. Oh and the nose piercing and tattoo well, that didn’t go over well. So it hurts my heart that I can’t share my newfound sexuality with them. I mean it’s not like I’m going out to find a girlfriend–I’ve been married 17 yrs. But whatever does happen is between me and my husband.

I’m so blessed by him and my 14 yr old daughter (my 7 yr old is a bit young to explain, though we talk about all types of families and not being mean to ppl because they are different from us). They are totally by my side, ready to march next to me in a GLBT parade (next year, possibly, it will be our city’s first). but I don’t want to have to say “Don’t tell Grandma what we did yesterday”–they only live 2 hrs away. I have to be careful what I blog, family members read it.

I am just tired of trying so hard to be someone else. I just want to be me. But my heart can’t be hurt anymore. I’ve lost family members to death, my MIL last year. I can’t lose anymore :*(

God bless you for this blog for being able to share in order to bless us, your readers :*)

By: Christine Race

Christine Race — Sat, 28 Nov 2009 09:03:46 +0000

Thank you Anita and D…you surely have boosted my spirits over the years…its getting tough now…and I like to read how you are making it thru {{{ HUGS }}}

Christine Race of Sacramento

By: RingingBells

RingingBells — Sat, 28 Nov 2009 00:47:42 +0000

This is just what I needed to read today, Anita. Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts with us. I cried yesterday because this holiday season I am separated from my family. And it frustrates me because even though it’s needed because of what has transpired over the years, it’s not something that can really be named. I almost wish it was because I had decided to come out to family. That’s something known, tangible, identifiable.

This time last year, I never would have dreamed that this is where I would be in my life. I’ve lost friends and family over things that aren’t related to my orientation at all (Oh, if they only knew!), but over things that just happen in life- mistakes, miscommunication, unforgiveness, trust, etc. and I think it would be worth it more to lose them over something that is for love (because is the brightest and strongest thread in the gospel, the gospel that divides) and not over things like this. But God has shown me in these great losses that He truly is sufficient in all things- He has blessed me in numerous ways. That following HIS will in my life may lead me away from my family, friends, and greatest loves, but in His will am I most satisfied, most comforted, safest, and most loved. I’m glad I’m learning these things now because someday, I may have to have a conversation with my family telling them that I’m gay and when that happens, God will have already proven Himself to me and He will be the greatest comforter as He is glorified in my weakness.