Comments on: The Secret Gay Thing We Do

By: e2tc

e2tc — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 16:01:24 +0000

anita, no worries! I only just finished reading all the books myself.

By: anita

anita — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 15:58:33 +0000

e2tc–>I hate it when I’m so out of touch I have to do a Google on someone’s comment. That’s right. I know nothing about Harry Potter. My bad.

By: anita

anita — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 15:57:40 +0000

Ahhhh….so clearly I’m not the only one!

Miss Eu–>I couldn’t help but laugh over your comments as I could only imagine you must sometimes feel like one of those plastic bobblehead toys with all the nodding that comes with winning the double minority lotto!

JRC–> Keep looking up. Always!

Catherine–> Has no one taught you the secret signal yet? Are you saying you didn’t receive the “Now that I’m a lesbian, Now What?” DVD that’s provided to everyone upon coming out? Shoot.

By: e2tc

e2tc — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 05:23:52 +0000

Or maybe people somehow know that I secretly carry a torch for Albus Dumbledore? (Seriously, I do. ) )

By: e2tc

e2tc — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 05:17:21 +0000

anita, great post – though I can honestly say that I’ve gotten “the look” more than a few times (and have also had people assume that I’m a lesbian based on ???) – so maybe some folks’ gaydar needs a tuneup?

By: Melissa

Melissa — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 02:24:05 +0000

haha! I recently noticed this too. My fiancee and I took a road trip a couple weeks ago, and everytime we spotted one we’d look at each other and quietly say, “sisterfriend!”

By: Catherine

Catherine — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 23:05:29 +0000

So true! We do that too. Although, I agree with Lia – I feel left out sometimes because of my long hair. We should develop some sort of secrect sign…

By: Jones

Jones — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 13:48:15 +0000

You’re exactly right about getting ‘the look’. It’s obvious when I’m with Chris that we’re a couple (whether we’re holding hands or not) and we often get ‘the nod’ or the eye contact. What I find interesting is that when I’m with my mom and my gaydar goes up I also get ‘the look’ and interestingly enough they’re more ready to sit and make conversation with us in a public place. It’s like ‘oh you’re with your mom on vacation, isn’t that a nice thing to do’ look. Hard to explain but I feel it every time.

As always, good post Anita. and you know, if you’re this far north you should just come and hang out with Chris and I.

By: TDK

TDK — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 04:44:02 +0000

Thanks Anita! Your posts and the Sisterfriends Community have helped me so much. The honesty, openness and acceptance found here and in the forum is such a blessing. It is hard for me to believe all that has happened in my life. I have found the acceptance I was looking for from the Lord. Have found wholeness before my God. Have begun to experience physical healing, and emotional healing. God has brought the most wonderful woman into my life and she has brought me much needed support in this healing. When I think how scared I was to post for the first time, and now realize how liberating being out is — well, maybe we all just pick up on that feeling of freedom within one another. Maybe it just glows or something — and to not only be true to our selves, but to know that God loves us and accepts us. Well, I am beaming!

Thanks again, love all your posts.. but as Sisterfriends, lets keep getting to know one another better.

By: Barb Elgin, MSW, LCSW

Barb Elgin, MSW, LCSW — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 03:55:28 +0000

Ha! I am laughing because I just had this experience this weekend at a mostly straight event. I was there with some gay friends and, as we walked out, I saw a couple where one partner gave me ‘the look’. So then, of course, I turned to my friends, who hadn’t noticed and ‘alerted them’. Funny how that works, isn’t it.

Thanks for your posts, I love your style.