Comments on: WordPress Has Some Nerve. So Does God.

By: Shawn

Shawn — Mon, 15 Dec 2008 05:24:21 +0000

Anita,
At church service today (ELCA) in the foothills in Auburn, as I was finding my seat I turned around and noticed two women sitting together in the back pew. I smiled and waved and they acknowledged my welcome but seemed reserved. During the meet and greet I wanted to welcome them but they were gone. I really was excited to have some new family like myself and wanted to give them a warm greeting. I am not out in my church but would gladly welcome anyone who was out or not. I hope one of them reads your blog as I do. I am confused why they would just leave. This saddens me.

By: anita

anita — Sat, 13 Dec 2008 19:12:15 +0000

Terri–> You said something that’s so true to my own experience as well; that being that it seems that my life is more blessed now that before. Like you, I realize that’s not the case, but maybe it’s because I was too preoccupied with denying, resisting, and fighting against being fully myself that there was no space or ability to see all that God was doing on my behalf. My heart and head was just too distracted to see the grace that was right before me. I thank you for reminding me of that today.

By: anita

anita — Sat, 13 Dec 2008 19:07:12 +0000

Sue–> The death of a friend isn’t something I would ever qualify as change that’s good. It’s a huge loss and something to be grieved but hopefully the grief doesn’t become so blinding that we lose touch with the goodness and gratitude of having known and loved the one who has died; to have been part of their life and they a part of ours. When my dad died there was nothing good about it though four years later while I certainly am touched at times with sadness at not having him here, I find myself turned far more to the joyful memories of growing up with him as my dad and the incredible times we had together. As to coming out to others, I hope you go slowly and only as you’re ready. It’s really a courageous and difficult thing you’re doing and I hope through the process your friends respond with love, compassion, and loyalty.

By: Sue

Sue — Sat, 13 Dec 2008 17:43:11 +0000

I’m going through change at the moment – coming out to myself and two close friends that I’m gay – wondering whether to tell anyone else and trying to come to terms with the death of my best friend so change is hard at the moment but reading about change being good is encouraging that one day I will look back and see the good in it.

By: Terri

Terri — Sat, 13 Dec 2008 04:59:06 +0000

Change is good, at least that’s what they tell us on a daily basis at work. I am one that doesn’t deal well with change either, I had to learn to deal with it when I became a nurse. It still upsets me greatly, but I’ve learnt to hide what it really does and go along with it, even urging those who are resistant to give it a try.
I didn’t deal with it so well when I had to admit to myself that I was gay. I tried to resist it for years, and some days I just want to scream “ok, I take it all back”, but it doesn’t work that way. Yes, there’s been some hurt and a lot of wondering along the way, but I’ve finally accepted myself, and feel that God has blessed me more than he ever did (not true, but it does feel that way) when I was in hiding.
So yes Change IS Good, even though sometimes it’s pure torture