6 ways to let your older child know they’re in care
Your big child is no longer a baby, but he still needs you so much.
When your children enter school and enter early childhood, you must simultaneously find a way to support them and let them grow up. A big child is far from being completely independent, but you must help him lay the foundations for school and for life. That way, when your kid hits pre-teens and teens, everything is a little easier for everyone involved.
Back to school is an important step and will become the center of your life with your big child. They will need a lot of support as they venture into a life outside of home and daycare. The best thing you can do as a mom is support them and be there. Big children are still small. They still need a lot of love and guidance from their mother. Here are 6 ways to help your big kid grow too fast.
6 Take their concerns seriously
If your older child is uncomfortable in any way, listen to him. A child who has a concern and expresses it to his parent should be celebrated. Being in school and making new friends can be exhausting and confusing. If your child has concerns, listen to their worries and don’t dismiss their fears, even if they are silly fears.
This will likely be the first time they have had a conflict with other children outside the home or maybe even with other adults at school. They will be exposed to a range of personalities and will have issues that are important to them. Empathize with what they are telling you and do your best to ease their feelings and help them solve their problems.
5 Get involved with the school
Your older child is now in school and doing his homework. Make sure they do all their homework and understand it. Keep up to date with their weekly assignments and know when they have upcoming projects. Parents place great importance on parental support in school for older children. These early habits can last a lifetime, and elementary school is a really special time in raising a child. This is also the time to target possible school problems and see what works for them in terms of school.
When it comes to activities, big kids love to try new things and are always discovering what they love. Encourage your child to get involved in school activities and sports early on. Attend school plays, carnivals and dances. They will be precious memories for both of you.
4 Offer affection
Your child will always need love and affection, regardless of their age. Just because they’re a little older doesn’t mean they don’t want hugs anymore. The years of following you and pulling your legs may be behind you, but the years of cuddling are not. So, kiss them for a good night’s sleep, tousle their hair and give them random hugs. Physical affection will make them feel more secure and connected with you. Your child may be a little taller, but he will never be so tall.
3 Hear their stories
Children are known to never be silent and it is so true. Your big kid probably has tons of stories to tell, and your ears are always the target. Listen to the best you can. For now, you are still the center of their world and who they want to talk to the most. So painful as it may be, you should listen to your big kid wandering around on YouTube or Roblox or what happened at lunch. Smile and nod. You will learn a lot about your child this way.
2 Develop their emotional IQ
Your older child has gone from these violent outbursts of anger to great feelings that they feel even deeper. Older children may not have toddler tantrums, but they can get very angry, very sad, or very excited. Child Mind urges parents to help their children recognize how they are feeling. Every human has a lot of emotions and we would all be better off if we knew how to deal with those emotions.
Help develop your child’s emotional IQ by modeling healthier emotions yourself. When you have great feelings, speak up. Say things like, “I’m so frustrated I can’t find my keys.” Or “I’m crazy about all this traffic.” After you have said how you feel, work on your emotions by saying your solution. Things like, “This traffic is out of my control, so I’m going to take deep breaths.”
1 Help their friendships
Childhood friendships can be fickle, but they are also deep. Your older child will need the support of his parents to develop his friendships and learn to treat his friends. The dynamics of friendship are a learning curve. Raising Children advises parents of older children to regularly ask questions of their classmates to make sure everything is okay. Sooner or later someone will be left out or not play with someone at recess for whatever reason. If this is your child, or if he is participating in the exclusion, you should know that. Teach your children to be inclusive and to put themselves in someone’s shoes on the outside.
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Source: Parents, Child Mind. Children’s education
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