I’m a mom and I HATE when parents say “fed is better” for babies

Whether or not to breastfeed your baby is an extremely personal decision – and one of the first decisions you will make as a mother.

But can we give you some advice? Whatever you decide to do, maybe do not do announce it online – because this hot topic is a sure way to ruffle some feathers.


Carlee said most mums who don’t breastfeed are ‘lazy’Credit: @carlgamble01/Tiktok
The mum said she did everything she could to breastfeed her baby


The mum said she did everything she could to breastfeed her babyCredit: @carlgamble01/Tiktok

One person who knows a bit more is TikToker Carlee Gamble.

Earlier this year, the mum posted a video responding to parents who say it shouldn’t matter if you give your baby formula.

She said: “Stop telling mums ‘feeding is better’. I’m sorry, it’s NOT.

“We’re not comparing feeding your child to not feeding your child.


“We choose the right thing to feed your child in which breast is best.”

The mum went on to compare formula milk to raising children on a candy diet and argued breastfeeding was the ‘healthier’ option.

She continued: “You wouldn’t compare giving your kids candy and chocolate versus giving them vegetables and saying ‘oh it’s okay, I’m feeding them.

“Like no. And I get it, some people legitimately can’t breastfeed and if your body is literally having a hard time doing it, that’s fine.

“But most moms are just lazy or say it’s ‘too hard’ for them.”

Opening up about her experience, the mum added: “You know what, it was hard for me but I swallowed it all.

“I went to therapy. I did the things I had to do to give my child my best.

Most moms are just lazy or say it’s “too hard” for them. You know what, it was hard for me but I gave in.

“It’s called being a mom and sacrificing yourself.”

After her video racked up nearly 250,000 views, Carlee filmed a follow-up clip in which she claimed people kept telling her she was “lucky” to be able to breastfeed.

She explained: “For me, I’m unlucky – I worked hard for it.

“I’m sick of people trying to put breastfeeding mums down because we’ve worked and it’s hard and we’ve done it.

“I don’t talk to moms who physically can’t breastfeed. […]

“I’m only saying specifically if you choose not to breastfeed because of the way your breasts look or for aesthetic reasons or if you don’t want to get up in the middle of the night with them, in my opinion that’s selfish. .”

What are the breastfeeding recommendations?

The NHS recommends exclusively breastfeeding your baby (feeding them only breast milk) for the first six months, but it’s up to you when you want to end it – and there’s really no right or wrong. wrong way to do it.

The NHS says weaning often happens gradually as your baby starts to eat more solid foods.

They note that solid foods should not replace breast milk, as there is evidence to suggest that breast milk helps a baby’s digestive system when first processing solid foods.

“Once they’ve eaten solid foods, your baby will still need breastmilk or formula as their main drink until at least their first birthday,” the NHS recommends.

“Cow’s milk is not suitable as a main drink for babies under one year of age, although it can be added to foods, such as mashed potatoes.”

You can also combine breastfeeding with formula and the NHS says that “phasing out” breastfeeding is often the easiest way.

For example, dropping a daytime or nighttime feeding.

After about a week, you can start thinking about dropping another one.

“If your baby is less than a year old, you will need to replace discontinued breastfeeding with formula from a bottle or (if older than six months) a cup or sippy cup,” they say.

You can breastfeed for as long as you want, and although the NHS recommends breastfeeding your baby exclusively for the first six months, you shouldn’t feel like you can’t continue for much longer.

The World Health Organization states: “Exclusive breastfeeding is recommended until the age of 6 months, with continued breastfeeding and appropriate complementary foods until the age of two years or beyond.”

Needless to say, Carlee’s videos sparked fierce debate in the comments.

“I chose NOT to breastfeed my son,” one replied. “It doesn’t make me lazy. I still had to get up in the middle of the night to fill her bottles.”

Another added: “Your comparisons are not equivalent. Sweets versus vegetables? No. The correct comparison would be organic apples versus regular apples. Both are still healthy.”

Meanwhile, a third said: ‘Why do you care what other mums are doing with their babies? Does it affect you?’

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